We currently live in a hypersexualized world where we must constantly fight to overcome sexual temptation. In a world that constantly depicts sex as love and normalizes sex outside God’s will, we need to arm ourselves for the journey ahead.
This is because we live in the flesh and Satan will raise all kinds of temptations that look attractive to the flesh.
But we cannot afford to give in. We cannot afford to go back to what God saved us from and is constantly saving us from.
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it NOT BE ONCE named among you, as BECOMETH saints;Ephesians 5:3
Understand God designed Sex within marriage for His glory
For it is God’s will that you should be holy: You must abstain from sexual immorality; each of you must know how to control his own body in holiness and honor,1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
As Christians, it would be pretentious to dismiss topics pertaining to our sexuality. This is because our sexuality is part of us.
It’s not abstract. God didn’t close his eyes when He included our sexuality in creation.
He made us sexual beings, but for His glory.
The problem with giving in to sexual temptation is that it shows a lack of self control on our part.
We are putting our lust above God and allowing ourselves to be led by our flesh, not the HolySpirit.
We sin when we indulge in it outside his glory and seek our gratification outside his will. This will make us miss out on the kingdom of God
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.Galatians 5:19-21
So what do you do when ungodly thoughts bombard your mind? How do you overcome sexual temptation when it comes knocking? Perhaps it’s that season or time of the month where your hormones seem to think contrary to the Love of God.
How do you keep your body as holy vessels and your mind a conducive place for the HolySpirit?
This post covers fornication in the heart because fornication doesn’t have to be physical for it to be sinful. There are people who read erotic books, watch pornography and masturbate to ease the tension.
This just goes to show how sin begins with the mind, builds up and then waits for the perfect occasion to work it out.
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.Matthew 5:28
You are what you feed on
We all grew up in different environments. Some of us grew up with histories of abuse while some of us consumed toxic content dished out by Satan and the world.
These things have formed us overtime, even after the Newbirth. So they tend to spill into our present day lives.
They also rise in times of temptation, reminding us of the things we gladly enjoyed in our times of ignorance.
These things won’t automatically go away. To tear them down, we have to build something else in their place. So you must be proactive about spending time in God’s word which will help you resist temptations and help you put your emotions under when they rise.
Eliminate anything that kindles arousal around you. Music, videos, books and even harmless couple videos.
Personally I also stay away from marriage books that explicitly talk about sex.
Yes sex is good when done right, but awakening love at the wrong time is not the best way to go about things.
It will fuel your desire and conjure images of a married life when God hasn’t brought your spouse yet.
Binge on Christ-centric messages
As a growing believer, I’ve learned over time that any message that sounds godly or good won’t cut it for me. This is because not all things are godly.
Not all messages build Christ in men.
New Creation realities messages helped build my foundation and basic teachings of the word like my status in Christ, the New-birth privileges I had and many other things I didn’t know as a believer.
I also listened to messages that made earthly pursuits more vivid than heavenly ones.
But with time, I realized these messages weren’t curing me of my soul diseases, regardless of my attempts at fasting, praying and sharing Jesus with believers and unbelievers alike.
There were days temptation would crawl in through ungodly thoughts and I wouldn’t know how to overcome when the thoughts invaded my mind.
I thought I knew what sin was until I grew up spiritually! Sin is so deep and mysterious it’s only the TRUE knowledge of Christ that can unravel it.
Motivational gospel wasn’t changing this contradictory nature in me either.
I wanted a cure. I knew if I continued pretending my heart was pure through confessions and affirmations, these same temptations would come and laugh in my face once again.
You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.Hebrews 12:4
God came to the rescue through the messages he brought my way. My life has been transformed and beautified through these messages.
After a while I noticed my soul was being healed little by little. My thoughts were changing.
God was taking over my thought process and cleansing my heart! He was enlightening my eyes to see and judge rightly.
He was strengthening me and by his grace enabling me to overcome through His wisdom and understanding.
I was able to distinguish my soul that loves sin from my spirit that hated it.-Galatians 5:17
I understood my contradictions and didn’t hide from it.James 4:8, 1Timothy1:15, 1Cor5:1, Romans 7:14, Ephesians 4:12
The one who delights in God’s word and the one who delights in carnality.
I knew I needed help and I would have to keep listening to the right gospel, keep obeying until my sinful nature is eliminated completely.
Until I grow into the full measure of the stature of Christ-Ephesians 4:13
Keep building, keep growing and stay occupied
Do you believe spiritual growth is the answer to all our problems?
I do because the Bible says so. And to overcome sexual temptation, we must keep our hearts fixated on God daily.
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.Romans 8:6
The difference between someone who keeps falling into sexual temptation when aroused and someone who doesn’t is their level of growth.
To permanently overcome sexual temptation, we must keep focusing on our spiritual growth.
The mind of Christ cannot comprehend sex outside God’s will. It is submissive to God and it was built to please God.
As we keep growing spiritually, hormones that usually dictate our feelings will submit themselves to God.
Yes your hormones are real. There are days they kick so hard it feels unbearable or crazy.
As we physically grow older, these feelings grow intense.
I want to let you know I feel you and I can relate.
But God made them and they will bow to Him.
We can only have such authority and power over our bodies when we grow into trees planted by the rivers of water.
Now you may wonder what is taking God so long or why your body feels ready yet there’s no one in sight.
But God is using this to build self control in you. He has a plan and a way and He knows what He’s doing.
Marriage isn’t the solution to lust, God is. And to overcome sexual temptation, we must lean into Him daily for strength.
If we haven’t learned to control our bodies before marriage, it’s not going to be automatic afterwards. We need to understand that our spouses won’t be available all the time for sex and sexual temptation will still arise.
There are many other things that happen in marriage. We are not going to die if we don’t have sex.
Don’t let anyone paint sex to be something more than it is. It is God’s gift, it is good but God is better and POWERFUL enough to help you overcome!
You shouldn’t become a slave to your feelings.
P.S: Did I also mention you could go jogging if symptoms of sexual temptation persists? Try exercising, go for a run or call a God chasing friend immediately to talk you out of it.
It helps a lot. wink*
Bloom with Love. Xx!