Is there such a thing as soulmates in the bible? Have you ever wondered if it’s truthful or just a myth? What does the bible say about soulmates?
Growing up I believed in the idea of having a soul mate. This was based on what TV had portrayed over time and some of the toxic books I’d binged on. I felt there had to be that ‘one’ person you marry and you dare not miss it.
Although it’s important to align ourselves with God’s will for us in marriage, we must enlighten our hearts with the word of God.
First, we need to understand the origin of soulmates.
“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.”
So we see that the origin of soulmate isn’t biblical but rooted in philosophical theories that have no root in God.
God ordained marriage for a reason
First, we need to understand that when God designed marriage, he had a plan in mind. His plan was to mirror His intention of becoming one with man.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but ONE flesh.Mark 10:7-8
Our marriage on Earth is a symbol of our ultimate marriage to God as his spotless bride. As we are called to follow Jesus, we leave everything we’ve ever known and cleave to Him.
And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life.Matthew 19:29
Ever notice how the word ‘know’ is used when a man has sex with his wife? To God, it’s not just sex as the world has perverted it to be, it’s a union of two beings becoming one in spirit, soul and body.
Now Adam KNEW Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain.Genesis 4:1
Because the sole purpose of Man is to know God
That I may KNOW Him and the power of His resurrection, and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death,Philippians 3:10
God’s choice is based on ONE GOAL
While I’m an advocate for being attracted to your spouse (attraction is subjective) and connecting with them on a deeper level, we must understand that God is looking beyond that. God’s goal is that both parties will help each other transform into the image of Christ.
This is why believers CANNOT marry anyone. We aren’t meant to marry our choice but God’s choice for us.
Now you may feel this is a lot to take in. And I know it is. But Love is not always butterfly in your stomach or the mushy way you feel when you’re with the person.
Those things are ephemeral and they’ll pass with time.
Love is a decision and a choice to love someone regardless of your feelings toward them. And because we are children of God, God is ever ready to teach us how to love.
First comes God, then love follows, and because God is love, if we open our hearts to him, we find grace to love and connect with His will.
Which brings me to the next point
Love the One you’ve been given
The soulmates philosophy makes one believe there’s that special ONE that can make you happy. But in reality we know that’s not true. Only God can complete us. He’s the one who makes us truly happy and this happens when we choose his ways above ours.
The culmination of our joy is found in God
You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.Psalm 16:11
If I wasn’t happy with God as a single, I could never be happy staying married. Because my future husband is human too and will have flaws. I still have flaws too and it would be unfair to dump all my baggage on one human being.
There will be days when you two will doubt your compatibility. Trials and temptations will definitely threaten your relationship and you will feel like quitting.
This is where Love becomes a decision. This is where Love is tested. Because True Love is like wine. The older it gets, the sweeter it feels.
But many people take emotional feelings as Love and issue a divorce when they don’t feel the same way they felt when they first got married.
If there was just one person out there for you, then it means we’d be doomed if something bad happened to them.
Also in God’s plan, man’s choice/will is involved. God could show you ‘the one’ but you still have a choice to choose them. They also have a choice to choose you if they will. Whatever happens, God isn’t limited in his resources if they choose someone else.
Is there ONE special person out there for you?
God is a matchmaker and His goal is for men and women to come into the fullness of His Son.
Since He’s all knowing and created us, he knows our end from the beginning.
He knows if he matches Miss A with Mr B, the end result will be conformity into Christ’s image. But if Mr B chooses his way above God’s way, it will deter him from God’s ultimate desire for him to become like Christ and fulfill His destiny.
So a man can love God today, but he may change and deny Jesus tomorrow. You don’t know this. Only God knows what we are capable of right now and in the future.
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?Jeremiah 17:9
Just because you connected with them on a deep level doesn’t mean you’ll be connecting like that in years to come.
I once had a friend that felt like my ‘soulmate’. We completed each other’s sentences and our thoughts were so alike it felt surreal at a point. I felt as if I had found a best friend. We confided in each other about everything!
Fast forward to 3-4 years later, we’ve gone our different ways and we barely say a word to each other. We just stopped connecting.
Do you see why we cannot base love on ephemeral reasons alone? It needs to be based on Christ.
We cannot keep seeking something that’s I’ve had other relationships that was at the brink of death but because of Christ, it was revived and still going strong.
The goal is God. He knows what we need and when we need it. And he will provide when the time is right. Just as he provided for Adam.
Bloom with Love. Xx!